Aug. 29 - Finding Time

Day 240 of a year of Kindness

A few months ago, I heard about a podcast where Simon Sinek and Charlene Tosi discussed the “8-Minute Rule.”

Simon shared that a friend of his who needed support, sent him a text that did not indicate she needed help. So, he ignored her text because there was no urgency, and he was busy. Later, he found out that she really needed him. When they discussed it after the fact, the same friend shared research with Simon that revealed when someone is struggling or in need, all they need is eight minutes from a friend.

So, now when either of them needs support, they text: Do you have 8 minutes?

I shared this with an old friend of mine who is going through a hard time and hates to ask for help. I thought that we could implement the 8-Minute Rule for each other since I also hate to ask for help. Tonight, she sent me a text asking if I had 8 minutes. I did.You won’t solve all the problems in 8 minutes, but you will be on the other end of the phone. Sometimes, that’s all we need.

Science of Kindness: The concept of the “8-Minute Rule” is rooted in research that even a brief check-in can make a difference in someone’s life. Engaging in short, meaningful conversations improves mental health and reduces the risk of mental health issues. By practicing the “8-Minute Rule,” individuals can make a positive difference for the people they care about. It’s a simple yet powerful way to show that you care.